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Winter can feel long. With the buzz of the festive season behind us and spring not yet on the horizon, January and February can be particularly challenging. It’s cold outside and daylight is in short supply, but what if, instead of wishing it away, we approached winter a little differently? Some of these ideas may be a little unexpected or unconventional, but they are all grounded in what we know about psychology. 

1. Work with winter, not against it

Shorter days and longer nights naturally make us feel like slowing down – and that’s not a flaw, it’s biology. Yet, in a society that places so much value on productivity, we can find ourselves resisting the call to rest. Productivity has its place, but no one can keep up the same pace all the time. Even the natural world around us takes a break during winter. 
Rather than pressuring yourself to keep going, to push through, or to fill the spaciousness of the winter months with action and distraction, try embracing the call to slow down a little. Small rituals can make this time of year feel cosy and restorative: hot drinks, early nights, warm baths, reading by lamplight, journalling your thoughts, taking some time just for you. 
Rest is not laziness. We not only deserve rest, we need it – sometimes we don’t realise quite how much until we loosen our grip a little. Instead of wishing winter away, think of it as permission – if you needed it – to recharge and restore. 
Woman with curly red hair drinking coffee and reading a book of poetry on a sofa.

2. Ease in 

Isn’t it something of a paradox that everything about winter seems to point towards rest – the darkness, the cold, the quiet – and yet this is the time of year that we are overwhelmed with messages about making resolutions, starting new projects, and reinventing ourselves? Working towards our goals is important, but equally important is considering how we define success. Must success mean a grand splash into the deep end on New Year’s Day, and then never missing a stroke? 
Psychological research warns us about black-and-white, or all-or-nothing thinking. These very common cognitive distortions, or thinking errors, can often surface around this time of year. Either something goes perfectly to plan, or it’s a complete failure. Either we show up the same every day, or we may as well give up. What would it look like to embrace that wonderful, betwixt and between, underrated grey area between perfection and failure? To make ‘try and see’ the goal? To trust the process? A short walk counts. Ten minutes of stretching counts. A single nutritious meal counts. Progress is progress, no matter the pace. Small changes not only add up, but they are also far more likely to last. 

3. Reach out

Whether you are pursuing your goals, embracing the quiet, or somewhere in between, you don’t need to do it alone. Connectedness is a powerful buffer against low mood. But don’t just do it for yourself – do it for those around you. A simple ‘How are you doing?’ (followed, if necessary, by ‘and how are you really doing?’) could make all the difference to someone’s day. 
The beautiful thing is that simple acts of kindness have a ripple effect, because psychology shows us that our behaviours, thoughts, and feelings all influence one another. Reaching out, checking in, showing care towards others can not only put them in a positive frame of mind, but us too. In turn, we feel better, we are more likely to do it again, and the cycle continues. So, next time someone crosses your mind, why not let them know?
Spring will come soon enough. Until then, let’s rest, reflect, ease in, reach out. Go gently. Ask ourselves, what it would mean to winter wisely this year?